What is Anger?
Everyone has likely experienced anger at some time throughout their life. Some people become angry more often than others, and have regular, intense outbursts. Others tend to bottle their feelings, and then explode or erupt without warning - like a volcano.
Anger is a basic human emotion and a natural reaction to situations beyond our control. There are a number of things that can trigger or contribute to anger such as the actions of another person (treating an animal unfairly), an event (favorite football team is beaten), stress (losing the new account at work), expectations not being met, feelings of hurt, disrespect, humiliation, embarrassment, jealousy and sadness.
Anger is healthy and depending on how it is managed and expressed, anger can be positive or negative. Anger has positive consequences when angry feelings help you address a problem or issue with yourself or another person and rectify the situation.
Dealing with anger positively enables you to put negative emotions into perspective. When you want to let off steam, feel frustrated or upset, there are constructive ways to channel your anger like listening to music, running or going to gym. These are often used in treating anger disorders.
Expressing anger in a negative way leads to various unhealthy behaviors such as violence and aggression. You may become out of control and threatening to others. When anger interferes with your ability to think or act clearly, this can cause you to invite unnecessary trouble to yourself.
If anger hampers your personal relationships with friends and family, leads to violence, creates trouble in your professional life and people fear your temper, you may be suffering from anger disorders and treating anger becomes essential.
What Causes Anger?
Anger disorders are many times a consequence of anger that is suppressed or bottled deep within. If the individual never admits or exposes anger, and puts up a good front and therefore hides their true feelings, anger disorders can occur. Individuals who have being hurt badly or experienced some form of abuse and trauma have difficult expressing emotions, and tend to internalize their anger.
This emotion is often transferred to other more harmful behaviors such as drug and alcohol addiction, eating disorders or self harm. Negative consequences of suppressed anger can also result in tension, depression, and a breakdown in relationships.
Certain bodily reactions take place when a person experiences the emotion of anger. Heart rate and blood pressure increase and breathing becomes shorter and faster. An individual may also become flushed, hot and sweaty, start to shake and clench his or her jaw.
As much as the signs of anger may differ from person to person, people express their anger differently. Some may begin to yell, be abusive and insulting, break down doors or resort to fist fights, throw things, storm out, while others may become quiet, depressed and introverted.
Help for Anger
Poor anger management also affects your physical health and can cause high blood pressure, chronic lower back pain, stomach problems and heart disease. It can also lead to anxiety, as well as thoughts of suicide, therefore treating anger is of upmost importance.
The good news is that there are solutions and ways of coping better through anger management techniques. Treating anger is fundamental if you want a happier, more fulfilling life.
Learn Anger Management Techniques
Some anger management techniques include the following:
- Identifying the cause of your anger
- Speaking to a close family member or friend about how angry you feel
- Practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises, meditation or yoga
- Engaging in physical activities such as aerobics, brisk walking, running or dancing
- Reducing your stress levels by having a massage, listening to music or reading a book
- Doing something creative such as painting , sketching, writing poetry or scrap booking
- Herbal remedies such as Passiflora incarnata, Skullcap or even Flower Essences can all help to calm and soothe angry feelings when they are hard to handle – allowing you to approach the situation and express your concerns in a rational manner
These anger management techniques can be very helpful however, if you feel angry all the time and have trouble controlling all your negative emotions, seek professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist.