Shyness

Natural remedies to help shy individuals in overcoming shyness and apprehension when meeting people.

    natural remedies to help shy individuals in overcoming shyness

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    1. What is Shyness?
    2. What Causes Shyness?
    3. Help for Shyness
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    What is Shyness?

    Shyness is not a medical disorder, but rather a behavior pattern or personality trait – some individuals are more introverted than others – and this may stem from as far back as childhood. Shyness can also be defined in technical terms – such as anxiety felt in social situations. A person who is shy may avoid meeting new people, confronting new situations or having attention on them.

    What Causes Shyness?

    Shyness can be genetic or caused by social experiences that a person may have had. While some people may overcome their shyness with age, for others extreme shyness may lead to social phobia, or anxiety in adulthood. Individuals may avoid working in an office, or avoid social situations at all costs.

    While common and mild shyness may result in physical symptoms, such as blushing, or stammering – extreme shyness can be accompanied by panic attacks – causing symptoms such as increased heart rate, sweating, nausea and shaking. Conventional drugs to alleviate shyness include Paxil and various antidepressants in the SSRI group. However, these drugs come with certain side effects and are not suitable for children who suffer with shyness.

    Help for Shyness

    We can look to Nature for a solution – as many herbal and homeopathic remedies utilize all natural ingredients to soothe nerves and promote calmness in the mind and body. Herbs such as Melissa officinalis, Lavender and Passiflora incarnata have been used for centuries to calm ‘butterflies in the tummy’ and restore calmed nerves.

    Homeopathic ingredients can work at a cellular level to address acute symptoms such as shaking and sweating. Gelsemium, for example suits those who do not like the limelight and is commonly used for treatment of stage fright. Chocolatum suits individuals who experience an acute awareness of their heart, either because it is beating too fast, too slowly or irregularly. Silica is particularly useful for shy children who tend to suffer with nervous exhaustion.

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    Tips to combat Shyness
    • Baby steps. Start off with ‘bite-sized’ chunks – pick a few people that you are comfortable around (even family) and try out social behaviors such as eye contact, smiling and asking them questions.
    • Initiate. Think of a few ways to start a conversation. This could be something simple like "Do you have the time?" and then follow up with "That’s a great watch!" You may even start a conversation with a comment "Great weather we’re having…"
    • Plan. If you feel more comfortable planning a conversation – do so. You may want to rehearse it out loud in front of a mirror. Remember that conversations shouldn’t be too rehearsed or you may seem too robotic! Try to use your notes as a guide, and see how the conversation develops.
    • Group. People with similar interests find it easier to chat to one another. Join a group or activity with like-minded people. If you are too shy to join a group of a lot of people, perhaps a pen pal is a good idea to start off with, one-on-one.
    • Have a back-up plan. Often a lot of anxiety about being shy with others is focused on the fear of failure or the chance of rejection. If you have a back-up plan, then if the conversation becomes too much or if you get too nervous, you can remove yourself from the situation before you get too flustered. Try something like "Oh, I forgot something in the office/classroom/gym/car" and take a few minutes alone to re-group.
    • Be you. Try to still keep what makes you unique. It’s fine if you want to follow guidelines for conversation, but in the end, your personality will shine through, and being yourself is what is likely to make friends and acquaintances

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